Stuff on my mind…
So I’ve noticed on Twitter these past few weeks and just as part of this military life in general…rank sometimes comes up as an issue. It’s really frickin’ ridiculous. No single person or issue made me want to write this blog but it’s like that elephant in the room. The thing that gets talked about in whispers but nobody really says anything about. I heard about it before I was even married to my husband. Here’s my stance on it, like it or not.
My husband is enlisted and low in rank. I don’t feel that someone is “better” because they completed their four year degree and entered at the officer level. Honestly, WHO CARES? When it comes down to it, a soldier is a soldier, a marine is a marine. You are all called to do the same damn job. If you stand a guy with a degree next to a guy who doesn’t in civi’s…can you tell the difference? I can’t! So who the hell cares!?! I respect someone who has their degree, I don’t…yet. It’s something both DH & I are currently working towards accomplishing. I may offend some by saying this, but at least in what I’m thinking…most people who complete a four year degree have aspirations of using that degree immediately upon graduation for the civilian world in their chosen career field. Example, graduate with a Political Science degree, go do Poli-Sci stuff. You get the picture. I don’t feel that many people spend their cash, time, and sweat to get their four year degree at 22 (or even later) to go and sign up for the military. Sure. It happens. Perhaps a lot, but like I said…I don’t think it’s something many college graduates plan to do. I know a lot of the allure in joining is to PAY for college to be completed, to have the Army assist you in obtaining your 4 year degree. I get that completely. I don’t know. This whole rank this is ridiculous. I get why it’s in place and it should be…obviously. I just have a problem of how things are tossed around and handled.
On the pride thing, I will be proud when my husband make his next rank. It’s an automatic thing so it’s not like it’s something crazy, but it still reason to be proud. It’s better than getting an Article 15 and losing rank right? Anyway, sure I’ll share it on Twitter once and perhaps post it on FB once…but I’m not going to parade around wearing shirts that say “I LOVE MY SPC” or “SPC’s Wife.” I’m not going to change who I am because now my husband is an SPC. So what? Great. And it won’t happen when he makes SGT either. I’m super stoked he moved up in rank but it doesnt change my life one bit except perhaps a couple extra bucks floating around our household. People that allow themselves, their friendships, their marriages, their social circles, etc to be defined by rank are BOGUS. If you’re one of these people…do me a favor and stop reading my blog and/or unfollow me from Twitter. Sheesh.
So an update on life here. Things are getting better. I’ve joined the gym and am in the process of shedding the 12 pounds I’ve somehow gained over the past 9 months. Ick. I was so thin when he came for R&R. What the hell happened!?! I am excited to have met someone who is stationed here and also experienced the loss of a pregnancy. We met through TheBump.com message boards and we’ll be meeting for lunch tomorrow. YAY for that! It will be nice to have someone who understands all aspects of my life right now. Another Twitter friend is moving here very shortly and I’m excited to have yet another person to get to know and hang out with. Things are for sure looking up.
Hubs and I get to go to San Antonio next month for an honorary dinner as part of the PGA tour. Really looking forward to having an excuse to FINALLY see my husband in his Class A’s and get jazzed up.
Lastly, and sort of randomly…I want to encourage wives, children, and service members to reach out to Military One Source for counseling if needed. It is confidential. It is free, for 11 sessions. It is wonderful. You just have to call the 1800 number anytime of any day and let them know you would like to see a counselor. There is no co-pay involved. If you’re experiencing issues within your family, military related or not…they are there to help you.