The Anti-Army Wife
So is there an “Official Code” of army wives? If so, what do you think is in it? As time goes on, I consider myself the “Anti-Army Wife.” Before you get your tail feathers ruffled, it doesn’t mean I am anti army, it means I don’t feel like I fit the “mold” of military spouse. I’m not going to get into too much detail on that, because my personal beliefs might offend others. But for example, looking around post (and off) most spouses my age have been married a few years and have a couple kids. Not me. To be honest, it makes it really difficult.
I don’t talk too much here about our miscarriage, but it adds insult to injury walking around everywhere and the “norm” being families. I have not adjusted well to life here. It’s not easy to find other girls to spend time with because they are busy with play dates and changing diapers. I take care of a baby 50+ hours a week at work and emotionally, I am not able to be around “families” too often.
Another reason I feel out of place, is I have a job. Now before people get upset about that one…I’m not saying all military spouses don’t have jobs…but a lot that I know…don’t. I can accurately say that 75% of the girls I’ve met don’t. Literally. 3 out of 4 girls I know don’t have them. While there’s nothing wrong with choosing not to work or staying at home, it’s yet another thing that separates me from connecting with other girls here. I work 50+ hours a week and I live 30 minutes from post. When I get off work around 6/6:30, I don’t feel like driving a half hour to go hang out for an hour and get home at 9pm. Not to mention, that leaves me no time with my husband. Also, I don’t have the luxury of just being able to take off and do whatever, whenever. I can’t go grab some coffee in the afternoon, go work out at the gym together, or just go hang out and shop during the day. I work. Tonight, I had to go to USAA and deposit my pay. There’s only one branch, it’s 30 min away…next to post. Then, I had to run to Target and then, I went tanning. I barely made it home by 8:00pm. My husband passed out about an hour later. It’s exhausting.
So, there ladies and gents are a few reasons I feel like I don’t fit the mold of Army Wife. I don’t mean for it to sound whiny, but I really can’t wait to get back to “normal life.” I don’t hate or dislike this life, it’s just not something I want to be a part of forever.